Blog

13
Apr

Adoption Is…

Each journey to adopt a child has its own “specialness.” And our journeys were no different. In working with clients (parents) and reflecting often on the adoption process, I see a number of common themes. Adoption is complex. Sure, there are parameters and expectations, but they are on a spectrum—a delicate orchestration overseen by your ...
11
Apr

Why Is Adoption So Expensive?

We hear this question all the time. It seems logical that when a person wants to adopt and add to their family, the cost to the family should not be $25-40,000 (average international adoption). It seems unreasonable to have high expenses associated with such a loving process. Some find adoption expenses appalling while others come ...
4
Apr

Is Hague Best For Haiti's Children?

On March 2, 2011 Haiti signed the Hague Convention on the Protection of Children and Cooperation in Respect of Intercountry Adoption. The Hague Convention is an international agreement between participating countries with the goals of protecting the best interests of children in intercountry adoption, and preventing the exploitation and trafficking of children. By signing the ...
1
Apr

Adoptions and Celebrities

The US Department of Homeland Security reports that in 2009, 12,782 orphaned children were adopted internationally by US citizens. These statistics seem, sadly, very low considering the current US population. The media, very rarely, reports on these adoptions, unless a celebrity or famous individual was the adoptive parent and for the majority of us, we ...
28
Mar

Meet MLJ: Kathy G. Slaughter

Name: Kathy G. Slaughter, LCSW Title at MLJ: Home Study Coordinator What do you actually DO with MLJ: I review home study documents submitted by prospective adopting parents and then meet with them in their homes to get to know them. Then, I write the 8-10 page document known as "the home study" or Adoption ...
27
Mar

Haunted

Sometimes I see them again. I am walking around the orphanage, wearing my daughter in a baby carrier. She is looking out, seemingly disconnected from the familiar scenes. My arms are around her. I kiss her shorn head from time to time and softly stroke the bug-bitten pale face. My husband is close, quiet, and ...
19
Mar

Considering the Children of Japan

Like you, I have spent the last several days in awe, watching the television and internet pictures of the Japanese earthquake and tsunami. I, actually, have relatives living near Tokyo and have been in email contact with them. They have no electricity and no telephone service, but they can access the internet (do not ask ...
16
Mar

St. Patrick's Day And Adoption Parenting

Adoptive parents often wonder how they should combine their own cultural traditions with that of their children. There’s an easy lesson in the history of St. Patrick’s Day, which comes from the religious significance of Lent (read Adoption Preparation and Mardi Gras). According to Roman Catholic church teaching, the forty days prior to Easter are ...
13
Mar

Inspired by Bieber to Change the World

Kaitlyn DeVeydt is a Freshman at Brebeuf Jesuit who has been inspired by one of her favorite singers – teen heartthrob Justin Bieber. The most popular 17 year-old in the world is being an answer to the prayers of people in need all around the world. In Justin Bieber’s newest song “Pray”, he sings about ...
5
Mar

Adoption as a Ministry

“To minister” as defined by Noah Webster is “to attend and serve, to give things needful, to supply the means of relief, and to relieve.” I was once warned by a well-meaning advisor not to look at our adoption as a “project.” Initially I ignored this unsolicited advice even though it stung a little bit; ...
2
Mar

Adoption Preparation and Mardi Gras

Next week, hundreds of thousands of people will descend upon New Orleans to celebrate Mardi Gras. Millions more will use the holiday as an excuse to take time away from work, relax and enjoy traditional food and drink. Yet, many do not know the origin of this festival, and its relationship to faith and family. ...
27
Feb

Beyond Rosa and Martin

Deesha Philyaw is a freelance writer and adjunct professor in the Master of Professional Writing Program at Chatham University. She is a black co-parenting mom of two girls, ages 7 and 12, one of whom is adopted, and stepmom of two girls, age 12 and 14. Deesha has written a series of blogs for us ...
24
Feb

Empowered To Connect Conference Recommended

Last September, I had the privilege of attending the Empowered to Connect Conference in Nashville, TN. The conference was full of insights and “ah-ha” moments. Although my daughter had been home for over a year, I had many eye opening moments listening to Dr. Karyn Purvis speak. Dr. Purvis truly understands children who have come ...
23
Feb

Jillian Michaels Announces Adopting From DRCongo

Once again, a celebrity is calling attention to international and transracial adoption. Have you heard? TV’s toughest trainer is taking on another role, that of motherhood. One of The Biggest Loser trainers, Jillian Michaels, is adopting from the Democratic Republic of Congo. Michaels, featured as one of the reality show’s key trainers, announced that she ...
15
Feb

It’s Okay To Be A Token. Really. Part 2

Deesha Philyaw is a freelance writer and adjunct professor in the Master of Professional Writing Program at Chatham University. She is a black co-parenting mom of two girls, ages 7 and 12, one of whom is adopted, and stepmom of two girls, age 12 and 14. Deesha has written a series of blogs for us ...
13
Feb

Choosing a Hague Accredited Adoption Agency

Choosing an adoption agency is not an easy task. Once a family has committed to begin the process of intercountry adoption, they are faced with choosing which agency and program will be best. This is often a daunting task of pouring over websites and info packets, interviews, and free seminars. It is important to note ...
11
Feb

It’s Okay To Be A Token. Really.

Deesha Philyaw is a freelance writer and adjunct professor in the Master of Professional Writing Program at Chatham University. She is a black co-parenting mom of two girls, ages 7 and 12, one of whom is adopted, and stepmom of two girls, age 12 and 14. Deesha has written a series of blogs for us ...
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